3 Ways to Manifest Your True Desires

-By Cindy Silbert

Cindy Silbert

When things are not quite showing up as fast as you’d like or in a way that is unlike what you’ve imagined, a normal reaction is to try harder, meditate more, or tell the Universe what you want again, again and again (as if it didn’t hear you the first time!).

According the dictionary, manifesting is the act of revealing, making evident or clear. Manifesting is the process of allowing what you desire to become evident to you and, through the process of alignment, allowing your desires to become real evidence in your life. On any given day we’re faced with all sorts of evidence about what we’ve managed to manifest in our life. Sometimes the evidence is exactly what we wanted and other times – not so much!

The temptation is to think that we did something wrong or need to try harder. As you attach to the evidence of what you don’t want, you do three things: 1) Become hooked and out of alignment 2) Expand what you don’t want by resisting it and 3) Constrict the space and energy around you so that the Universe literally cannot co-create with you. The Universe needs space to deliver something new! When you are attached to any outcome, even if it your truest and deepest desire, you are “not allowing” the Universe to deliver it to you. Your desires are there waiting but unable to manifest into your life experience because the flow of energy, the channel of deliver, is literally constricted.

The vibration we feel tells us if we’re in alignment or not. We can’t think our way into alignment we have to feel our way there. When we come into alignment with our true desires, little-by-little our thoughts, actions and expression become totally aligned with what we want. Alignment allows us to naturally release resistance and allow flow of energy, resonance with our desires and manifestation from the Universe. When we over think, over intend or put our attention on the absence of our desires such as calculating down to the minute how long it’s been since we requested what we wanted and the fact that it hasn’t shown up – we are pushing, forcing or positive thinking our way into alignment which creates resistance telling the Universe we DON’T want what we really DO want.

Here are three ways you can increase your vibration and manifest your true desires.

1. Clarity – If you are not clear, vacillating between what you don’t want and what you do want or bouncing from worry to certainty, chances are you’re living in gray matter with a flat-lined vibration. Living in the gray creates the experience of two steps forward and one step back, sabotage, vicious cycles or inching toward your goals but not quite breaking through. When you gain clarity, you move from gray to black and white on your way to manifesting your desires and in full living color. If you try to manifest from gray it only creates more shades of gray. It’s essential to get to black and white clarity first. You can create clarity by using this test, “If it’s not a yes, it’s a no.” Clean out your mental closets, to do list and even dreams with this test. Make a list of anything causing confusion, not manifesting, waiting you down, and robbing your energy or just plain annoying you. Go through each item and ask if it’s a “yes” or a “no”. The next step takes courage. Clear, complete or let go of everything that is not a “yes” – even if it’s a dream. Many times our dreams become something we lug forward from year to year. Letting go of the heaviness of an unfulfilled dream can give you a new lease on life and send your vibration off the charts.

2. Alignment – Manifestation happens when your physical vibration resonates with your true desires (like a symphony!). When you connect with your heart’s desires, you can feel a shift in your physical vibration. You CAN’T create a positive vibration through forced thought (in that action there is resistance to what you don’t want and thus you will create it). You can create natural resonance (an explosion of vibration when two like energies align) when you connect with thoughts or what we call “aligning statements” that are aligned with or capture your true desires to the point where you can feel yourself align within. This alignment creates a simultaneous release of energy and increased vibration. Fear, worry and self-doubt are untruths that take you out of alignment and create resistance or a barrier between you and your natural resonance. Alignment and resonance comes naturally as you detach from or clear what is untrue (that false place you’ve been entrapped in or living from).

3. Non-Attachment – Manifesting is in many ways counterintuitive to our minds and certainly our egos. True manifesting occurs when we manage to un-think, un-attach, un-do and let go. True manifesting requires you to find feminine power in feeling vulnerable and trust in your worthiness of receiving what you truly want from the masculine energy of the Universe. Practice non-attachment by noticing (without judging, measuring or attaching to) everything in your life especially the evidence of what you don’t want showing up. Breathe and open to possibility feeling energy and space open up around you. Fill the space with your aligning statements, doing something joyful or getting excited about what you’re creating in your life.

For more of Cindy’s practices and tools, check out www.BringUtoLife.com

Debbie Lichter, Pin Up Girl Pilates, San Diego, CA

New Year’s is here—there won’t be a better time to start taking care of YOU. But for many of us, we don’t know what that means. We’re so used to working our tails off, trying to please everyone around us and being hyper critical of our shortcomings that we don’t exactly know how to be loving, generous and caring to ourselves. 

I spent the better part of this year trying to uncover those actions that spelled L-O-V-E to my soul and I’ve shared them with you below. What does your list look like? How do you ensure you’re giving yourself warm, fuzzy shots of love all day? 

As we step into 2010, I challenge you to identify your “Love Myself” list, and stick to it for a solid week. Then check in with yourself and notice what’s different about you  

Deb’s Top 5 Daily ‘Loving’ Actions

1. Meditating. It took me a long time to realize that devoting time each day to be quiet and reflective is perhaps the most productive and loving thing I can do for myself. Now I wake up early to get in 30min-1hr meditations in before I start my day.
2. Teaching. Teaching people how to get smarter, stronger and sexier in their bodies through Pilates is hands-down the most fulfilling act of my day. I feel big gushes of love when I teach.
3. Learning. I like to remain open to learn something new every day. It makes me feel connected with the Big Cosmic Bank of Universal Intelligence. And that connection comforts me.
4. Reading. I read, usually before bedtime. It feels so decadent to slip into bed with a good book and hot cup of tea. This is soul food–yum J
5. Exercising. I move every day. This doesn’t mean I do a hardcore workout every day. (I do a hard core workout about 2-3 times a week). This just means I find time to be in my body and be physical—whether it’s a walk around the block, a 10 minute routine on the Pilates reformer or a stretching session, I make time to connect with my body. 

What does your list look like?

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Debbie Lichter, Pin Up Girl Pilates, San Diego, CA

I’m guilty. I catch myself making vague health & fitness goals, like “I want to increase my cardio” or “I want to have more balance in my life.”  I think that I’m setting goals, but what I’m really doing is setting myself up for failure. Why? Because unless a goal is specific, measurable, attainable, realistic and timely, it’s not going to happen. 

Think about shopping. Sometimes you go to the mall and just sort of wander around, glancing at price tags and trying things on. You may find something; you may not. And other times, you know you need some kick-ass stilettos to wear tonight, and you stop at nothing to find the perfect pair. 

In the first scenario, you don’t have a clear goal in mind. You haven’t identified what you want, so you can’t really get what you want. And, the slightest distraction will have you off your path in no time. Like the famous quote goes, “If a man knows not what harbor he seeks, any wind is the right wind.” -Seneca 

When it comes to setting fitness goals, set YOURSELF up for success with S.M.A.R.T. goals. Use the “Creating S.M.A.R.T. Goals” worksheet below to identify exactly what you want for 2010.

Creating S.M.A.R.T. Goals

Specific

Measurable

Attainable

Realistic

Timely

Specific - A specific goal has a much greater chance of being accomplished than a general goal. To set a specific goal you must answer the six “W” questions:

Who:       Who is involved?
What:     What do I want to accomplish?
Where:   Identify a location.
When:     Establish a time frame.
Which:    Identify requirements and constraints.
Why:        Specific reasons, purpose or benefits of accomplishing the goal.

EXAMPLE:    A general goal would be, “Get in shape.” But a specific goal would say, “Join a health club and workout 3 days a week.” 

Measurable - Establish concrete criteria for measuring progress toward the attainment of each goal you set. When you measure your progress, you stay on track, reach your target dates, and experience the exhilaration of achievement that spurs you on to continued effort required to reach your goal.

To determine if your goal is measurable, ask questions such as……How much? How many? How will I know when it is accomplished? 

Attainable – When you identify goals that are most important to you, you begin to figure out ways you can make them come true. You develop the attitudes, abilities, skills, and financial capacity to reach them. You begin seeing previously overlooked opportunities to bring yourself closer to the achievement of your goals.

You can attain most any goal you set when you plan your steps wisely and establish a time frame that allows you to carry out those steps. Goals that may have seemed far away and out of reach eventually move closer and become attainable, not because your goals shrink, but because you grow and expand to match them. When you list your goals you build your self-image. You see yourself as worthy of these goals, and develop the traits and personality that allow you to possess them. 

Realistic – To be realistic, a goal must represent an objective toward which you are both willing and able to work. A goal can be both high and realistic; you are the only one who can decide just how high your goal should be. But be sure that every goal represents substantial progress. A high goal is frequently easier to reach than a low one because a low goal exerts low motivational force. Some of the hardest jobs you ever accomplished actually seem easy simply because they were a labor of love.

Your goal is probably realistic if you truly believe that it can be accomplished. Additional ways to know if your goal is realistic is to determine if you have accomplished anything similar in the past or ask yourself what conditions would have to exist to accomplish this goal. 

Timely – A goal should be grounded within a time frame. With no time frame tied to it there’s no sense of urgency. If you want to lose 10 lbs, when do you want to lose it by? “Someday” won’t work. But if you anchor it within a timeframe, “by May 1st”, then you’ve set your unconscious mind into motion to begin working on the goal.

T can also stand for Tangible – A goal is tangible when you can experience it with one of the senses, that is, taste, touch, smell, sight or hearing. When your goal is tangible you have a better chance of making it specific and measurable and thus attainable.

 **“Creating S.M.A.R.T. Goals” article written by Top Achievement founder Gene Donohue.  

And stay tuned for some S.M.A.R.T. Mind & Body Transformation programs from Pin-up Girl Pilates!

Debbie Lichter, Pin Up Girl Pilates, San Diego, CA

What do you get when you mix a few lively women with a kick butt pilates class, and add light weights? Well, you’ll just have to join us next week for the final workout in our 4 part “Sex Goddess Strength & Stretch” series to find out! 

Class starts at 5:45pm at the Nobel Recreation and Athletic Center, 8810 Judicial Drive, San Diego 92122.

THERE ARE ONLY TWO SPOTS LEFT—CALL DEBBIE LICHTER NOW TO ENROLL (888) 890-1923.

Debbie Lichter, Pin Up Girl Pilates, San Diego, CA

I was shopping at Lululemon last week, and a bright, friendly saleswoman asked me to describe my Pin-up Girl Pilates classes. I wanted to utter a few penetrating peals that would at once impress and inspire her, and compel her to immediately charge out of the store and buy my book. (Note to self: Write a book). But instead, I babbled a few unintelligible phrases about fun, and sex and empowerment, as the poor girl politely looked interested. Anyway, Chelsea, wherever you are, this one’s for you.

ABOUT PIN-UP GIRL PILATES CLASSES

 Experience Your Body; Discover Your Strength.  

This class is about the power of “P”–Pilates, that is! We as women tend to look outside of ourselves for guidance and direction. We look to our friends, or our partners or even society for validation. We forget that we have all the strength and power within. Pin-up Girl Pilates classes are about tapping into your feminine power, experiencing your body as a fully integrated, sleek machine and having fun. This interactive and high-energy Pilates mat workout incorporates small props and is open to all levels. 

Check out the next class at Lululemon La Jolla Dec 14^th at 6:30pm.

The Kegels Song by Susie Shina

Table of contents for Pin Up Girl Pilates Bonus Workouts

1. Core Cardio Blast
2. 3 Moves for Sculpted Buns

Pin Up Girl Pilates

PIN-UP GIRL PILATES CORE CARDIO BLAST

3 MOVES TO BLAST AB FAT 

The Skinny:

Do this sequence once as a warm-up to any workout. Repeat the sequence 3-5 times in a row for a MEGA cardio blast, or use throughout your weight training routine for the ultimate cardio/strength workout! Perform exercises as fast as you can, while maintaining good form.

Exercises

MOVE # 1

BURPEE: Squat as low as you can, place your hands on the floor, and jump legs back into a plank position. Then jump legs forward to meet hands, and jump in the air. Repeat 10 times.

*Tip: Keep your abs tight when you pop into plank position! 

MOVE # 2 

PLANK KNEE PULLS: Stay in plank position. Pull one knee up to the same side shoulder, working your obliques on that side. Alternate knees for 20 reps total.

*Tip: Keep your butt low, and your spine in one long line 

MOVE # 3 

SQUAT KICK: With legs hip width distance, squat down and as you stand, kick 1 foot forward, as if you’re trying to knock someone down. Switch legs with each squat. Repeat for 20 reps total.

*Tip: Keep your knees over your ankles when you squat and use your abs to lift your kicking leg.

Table of contents for Pin Up Girl Pilates Bonus Workouts

1. Core Cardio Blast
2. 3 Moves for Sculpted Buns

Pin Up Girl Pilates

3 MOVES FOR SCULPTED BUNS 

Position 

On all 4’s: knees hip width distance; hips directly over knees and shoulders directly over wrists.                                                                                                               

Exercises

MOVE # 1 

CURTSY KICK: bend left leg to the side, so your left ankle sits behind your right knee. Lift and lower your left leg, bringing your left knee as high as you can (20 ea side)

*Tip: Try to keep your hips square to the ground and tighten your abs to keep the work in your buns and not your low back!

 MOVE # 2 

SIDE KNEE PULLS: Lift your leg behind you. Then, rotate your straight leg into “turnout”, meaning your knee is pointing out to the side. Bend your leg towards your shoulder, as if you were trying to touch your knee to your shoulder (20 ea side)

*Tip: Keep your knee lifted as high as you can without leaning to the opposite side. 

MOVE # 3 

DOGGIE AT THE FIRE HYDRANT: Keep leg out to side, straight or bent, and lift and lower leg (20 ea side)

*Tip: Try to keep your weight evenly balanced on both sides, and try to keep your arms straight!!

Enjoy,
Deb

The Secret Ingredients Of How to Have Better Sex Doesn’t Come From A Cake Recipe

Debbie Lichter, Pin Up Girl Pilates

Discover An Improved Sex Life With Pilates And Your Waistline Will Thank You For It

Want to know how to have better sex? Let’s think. If good sex were a recipe, here are some of the ingredients that might go into a delicious portion of sex: mix some strong abdominals with some toned pelvic floor muscles, a dash of mobile hip joints, a pinch of body awareness and a smidge of concentration, all tossed with some good flowing oxygen and voila! An improved sex life. Wait a minute….those ingredients are also major benefits of a regular Pilates exercise routine. Yes, it’s true. Pilates is good for your sex life!

Studies have shown that a key to an improved sex life is a healthy fit body. Because of the obvious, and not so obvious, body-strengthening benefits of a regular Pilates routine.

Pilates fitness can show you how to have better sex.

First and foremost, let’s talk pelvic floor. Know where your pelvic floor muscles are? Try this: think of the muscles that stop the flow of urine. Are you squeezing them now? Those are your pelvic floor muscles, which also factor into the famous Kegal exercises. They act as a kind of sling, or hammock, that support you from the very bottom of your pelvis.

Strong pelvic floor muscles equal stronger orgasms. It’s a fact; I’m not making this stuff up.

Next, stronger abdominal muscles help to sustain the actions of sex. Stronger core equals stronger movements for a longer period of time. Think of a belly dancer and the control she has over her core muscles. That undulating movement is created from very strong core muscles and years of practice. Pilates can offer that same control.

How about flexibility? Want to try some of those fabulous Kama Sutra poses, but can’t quite get your leg over your head? Pilates improves your flexibility and overall range of movement at the joints.

Looser hips give you greater ease of movement and a freer feeling body. Sounds good to me.

Some of the less obvious benefits of Pilates and how to have better sex have to do with oxygen. Pilates requires very deep, sometimes sustained breathing. This oxygenates your blood and sends oxygen to your muscles faster. The increased blood flow that comes from Pilates exercise can also benefit men who are experiencing some erectile difficulties.

Usually, and I am not an MD, an increased blood flow to certain areas of a man’s body, and you know what I’m getting at here, is all that is needed to feel improved strength. A stronger body also allows for better stamina and an overall feeling of wellbeing.

Sex is many times more mental than physical. We all know how a little mental concentration can boost your experience. (wink…nod) Pilates exercise utilizes imagery to achieve the correct form and feeling to each exercise.

So not all benefits of Pilates and how to have better sex are physical. The mental strength recruited during a workout can also be used in your sexual workout.

Joseph Pilates stated that the five basic principles behind his method of exercise are concentration, control, centering, flow, and breathing. All very good compliments on how to have better sex.

Really what it comes down to is control. Joseph Pilates first called his method of exercise Contrology. Yes, he was a control freak, but in a good way!

Be the master of your mind and body and you will have control in all areas of your life. Pilates will be the way to an improved sex life.